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Originally Posted by ASAP
So... real weird scenario here if anyone can chime in-
Went on 5 dates with a girl, both had a great time... even both parties confirmed it.
I always paid for everything... Saw her Saturday... hung out until late and again both confirmed a good time... i noticed however that I hadn't heard anything from her for a few days after... seemed weird considering we saw each other 5 times and she always wanted to hang out again.
Today I text her a little more seriously... and simply say what is this between us because i find it odd I haven't heard anything from you... the response i get is you're a great guy and i've had a great time and you deserve honesty but I can't commit...
LOL WTF...
You mean, you couldn't tell me this the 2nd time or even after the 1st? But whenever I wanted to see you, you did too and I made my intentions clear from the get go... you suddenly realize this?
Alright... some give me thoughts here-
Was she looking to just have a good time?
Dating others? (this is my thought... again apps give to many options so this is my thought)
Completely confused?
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Yes, yes, and yes.
1- dating for most women is to have fun while actively comparing you to other dudes. By the 5th date most men would basically be getting ready to lock her in. I know I would, at least. If I've gone on 5 dates with someone I'd start phasing others out. From chick friends though I've heard there's a long "decision process", if any, until they start phasing other guys out.
2- Completely confused sounds about right. The "in" thing right now is to have commitment issues. My gf's 19 year old cousin thinks she has "commitment issues" because she can't even finish a movie without getting distracted. ADHD is being perceived as commitment issues, basically.
3- This is a bit of a hot-ish take, and kinda a reply to the other guys above as well; why do you guys pay for everything? Obviously there's an age difference between me and most here, but I learned quickly to NEVER EVER pay for both on the first date.
Also, lastly - did you guys just go on 5 dates with no "action" at the end? I know I've lost a few girls because I didn't invite them back or barely gave a kiss. She may have taken that as a sign that you're not interested - ask me how I know
