You are in a position I certainly don't envy.
Just recently as my mother was passing, we were given some literature in the hospital. The biggest comfort I gained from it was the idea to 'Let go and Let be" I think there might have been a copyright issue with Let IT be. But from that I was able to know my mom was going to pass, and I still had things I both needed and wanted to do. Each afternoon, if I was in the hospital, I just told my mom I needed to go do my chores, and I'd go home and take care of the dog and the chickens, take out the trash, etc. I'd spend a few hours on weekends doing my outdoor things.
The difference was that I had the opportunity to drive 2 miles and see her at the end of my chores.
We might need to see pics of "friend" to make a final recommendation
Happy VD!
(attempts to inject some humor to lighten the load)